Thinking of you…
Whether a death is sudden or expected, it is important to let people know that our thoughts are with them.
Sending flowers is almost always welcome and appropriate. There are some differences between religions and cultures – if in doubt, good sources of advice include the Funeral Director, florists, or the church if a religious service is being held.
Food hampers, tea and coffee hampers, and fruit baskets are popular gifts, and can be sent anytime to express your sympathies.
For anniversaries or anytime to honour someone’s loss and let them know they’re in your thoughts, see memorial gifts and keepsakes.
Thank you notes
Including your name and address in the card that accompanies flowers and other gifts makes it an easier task for the person writing thank you or acknowledgement notes.
After the funeral and Anniversaries
Immediately after a death, the bereaved are often inundated with flowers, cards, and visitors. Yet a few weeks later, others have returned to their everyday activities, which can leave a grieving family feeling forgotten. It is important to let them know that they are still in your thoughts and that others remember and honour the person who has died. In the weeks and months following a death, a phone call or card can make a big difference.
Anniversaries and other special dates – birthdays, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day – often bring up many memories and are a good time to make contact. These later dates can be a better time for memorial gifts than in the immediate aftermath of a death when they can get lost in the upheaval.
See our article Remembering loved ones on the anniversary of a death by Marg Pasteur.
For bereavement and sympathy gifts to be delivered to the USA, see Heartfelt Sympathy Gifts.